Modern society and its hectic lifestyle are making very little room for family values – it seems like you either have to devote your full time to taking care of your family or do the complete opposite, and no one is trying to be in the middle and be moderate.
There is enough time for everything, and the fact is that each family member has their own daily schedules that need to be followed. As a parent, you don’t have to insist on spending a lot of your time during the day together, because quantity isn’t what we’re after here, but quality.
However, if you feel like your family members have drifted apart you probably don’t know where to start. When confronted with similar issues I managed to solve them by using the following three tactics, which work best when combined.
Yes, I know that time simply passes you by day after day, but that’s not really a good excuse. Everyone is in such a hurry that they’ve stopped genuinely caring for the people around them, and that’s no way to live a family life.
Just imagine what you could do if you only got a bit more involved. You don’t even have to be pushy – you just need to show you care by asking your family members about their day, how they’ve been recently and do they need a hand with something.
Within the circle of family, as in society in general, people respond to positivity and initiative. Bonding shouldn’t be forced and done superficially – it can and should be done slowly and subtly, so just be patient and polite, and take your time.
The strongest bonds are made by going through new experiences and learning new things, and as far as I’m concerned, the best way to do this is traveling. Learning about another culture and their ways is a healthy way for a family to grow together and bond through all kind of situations, and do so in both convenient and inconvenient ones.
The fact is not all families have enough funds to travel whenever they feel like it, but if you do open a savings account specifically for this cause and save money throughout the whole year, I’m sure you’ll be able to go to a nice destination and have some family fun.
Going camping, organizing picnics or simply spending some time in your backyard is a really awesome way to bond with your family. You can play sports together, take care of your garden, simply enjoy the nice weather or explore new ways to have fun outdoors – whatever you choose, rest assured that it will be an incredibly efficient bonding activity, and the great thing about it is that you’ll all get to spend some time in nature.
Devoting your family time to DIY projects isn’t just an amazing bonding method, it’s also a great way to save money. Being handy and able to fix minor problems around the house is very important for both boys and girls, and helping them learn to take things into their own hands is a very important step towards becoming truly independent in adulthood.
You should start with small projects, of course, and my suggestion is to conduct minor repairs on your furniture, for starters. Once you all become confident in your DIY skills, you should combine your forces and make a treehouse that the whole family can enjoy.
This one is my favorite – there’s so many positive things kids can subtly learn through board games and probably the most important one of them is sharing. I don’t know when was the last time you walked into a store that sells board games – if you haven’t been to one recently I’m sure you will be surprised with the diversity available today. Anyway, I’m sure you will have a lot of fun picking out and later playing a board game as a family.
None of the things I mentioned above are difficult or overwhelming – all you really have to do is enjoy an activity with your family members and everything else will fall in its proper place if you just give it enough time.